Monthly Archives: September 2010

Ten Days: Day Two

 Day Two: Nine things about yourself that most people don’t know.

1)      I can’t watch The Notebook anymore. It’s not because I don’t like it – I think it’s an amazing, wonderful, happy, sad, sweet, poignant movie. I can’t watch it because when I do, I cry so hard that I sound like a dying walrus and I give myself a miserable migraine for the remainder of the day. So, since it’s happened the last two times, I’ve given up for now and only watching in the future with great trepidation.

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2)      I tell people I’m allergic to melon, but I’m not.  When I order food at restaurants like Jason’s Deli, I order the fruit cup with no melon because of my severe allergy. It’s a lie. I just don’t like it. Watermelon is okay in small doses. But I really dislike cantaloupe and honeydew.

 3)      I have an ungodly fear of geckos. Actually, this might not qualify because anyone who has been to my house (or is related me) has heard me freak out. And, our new house must have been built on the remains of the Gecko Roman Empire or something because they are out there, by my front door, every single morning and every single night.

 (((Sorry, I can’t even post a picture here. I’m too freaked out to take one at my porch. Also, I’m even sorrier about the horrible pun.)))

4)      I have three small burst veins on my top right thigh. It’s from when I was about 12 and my sister Beth shoved me and I fell on top of the Barbie house. It stabbed me. That Barbie – she’s a vengeance-intent biotch. She hates homewreckers.

 5)      When I was a little girl, my parents told me I was allergic to chocolate, so that I wouldn’t ask for sweets and snacks. I believed this until I was about 10 or 11. I call that inhuman cruelty. And, apparently, that’s where I got my pathological allergen-liar tendencies.


6)      I don’t think that Angelina Jolie is beautiful at all. She’s not an ugly woman, she’s probably better-looking than average, but I just don’t think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world. But then, who am I do judge? Except for the whole wearing blood thing. I judged a little then.

 7)      I’m a little afraid to have kids because I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my mom. She is a very opinionated and difficult-to-please woman. I don’t want to have the same relationship with my daughter, but I worry about repeating and mimicking the way I was brought up.

 8)      I don’t wash my hair all that often. It’s so thick that it takes forever to dry, so I probably wash it twice or three times a week, not every day, which seems to be the norm for people I work with. More frequently if it LOOKS dirty but it typically doesn’t. 

 9)      The first drink of alcohol I ever had was when I was 18. I went to a Presbyterian church and wine was served at communion. Growing up in a Baptist family, I was used to grape juice. I almost choked. I’ve gotten over all that now.

Ten Days: Day One

Here’s the first of my “Ten Days” posts. Just to let you know, this is the list that the posts follow, in case you too want to follow Sara’s example and participate:

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself that most people don’t know.
Day Three: Eight things you couldn’t live without.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you could change or you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot to you.

Day Seven: Four turn offs.
Day Eight: Three turn ons.
Day Nine: Two words that describe your life right now.
Day Ten: One confession.

1)      To my sister, Jo: Be careful. You have so much going for you in life. You’re young, beautiful, educated and charismatic. Don’t throw your life away. Don’t take things for granted. Work hard, make good decisions and make the most of your life. And, I’m proud of you.

 2)      To “Lou”: You’re not going to be famous. Get over it. We’re all tired of hearing about your ambitions to be the next Jennifer Love Hewitt or the next Taylor Swift or whatever. If you’re too old to be cast in reality TV, you’re probably too old to become a celebrity of any sort.

 3)      To Brittany (Law School Wife): I miss reading your blog and hope you and your husband are off to a great new school year and an amazing new part of your lives.

 4)      To my friend L: You’ll find a great guy, and someone that’s lucky to have you. I’m proud of you for the wise decisions you’ve made this year. You are an amazing person and I’m lucky to have you in my life. And, don’t worry – you’re young. You’ll meet someone. You’re only 26!

 5)      To Natalie @ Tripping in Heels – I love both your blogs and you’re one of my favorites. Glad to get to know another Texas girl. 

 6)      To Kate @ M.D. Like Me – I’m glad that you weren’t freaked out by meeting me in person. And I’m filled with admiration for career choices and the thought that you put into helping people.

 7)      To the Mavericks: PLEASE don’t ruin my life again this year by losing to the Spurs in the playoffs. Or ever.

 8)      To the guy who invented the Lingerie Football League: You are one sick sickie. Gag.

 9)      To my husband: You are the very, very best person I know. You make me laugh. And, I secretly think it’s cute how you watch little clips of Jersey Shore in between ESPN marathons, even though I roll my eyes at you. And how you like candy corn pumpkins now.

 To Jamie @ Jamie’s JD and E @ New Teacher, New Wife – you are my favorite new blog friends. I love having ya’ll’s tweets to amuse me during the day and break up the monotony of work. I love that you guys are so friendly, even though we’ve never actually met.

So, there’s my first post. I also have lots of things to say about Sister Wives, but that will have to wait til another day when I have more time on my hands!

Delightfulness and Ten Days

First, the delightfulness.

My co-workers (with a very few exceptions) are wonderful to work with. Today, I arrived to my desk to this adorable little friend:

It’s a tiny, adorable little Starbucks cake doughnut. Tiny versions of things are so much cuter than giant versions and this will be just enough sweetness, especially since I skipped breakfast this morning because I rolled my lazy self out of bed at 7:05 and have to leave for my carpool by 7:30.

My coworker brought it as a thank you for helping out with an event this weekend — just the pleasantness of a little surprise has started this sure-to-be-long day on the right track.

Okay, on to the next order of business.

Friday, instead of going out or doing anything exciting, I enjoyed an evening at home with Heidi Klum and Tim Gunn, watching the Project Runway contestants make it work. This is one of the first seasons where I don’t have a clear favorite, so I’m a very passive observer this season. While I was doing this, I decided to work on my “Ten Days” posts. I was inspired by Sara from Running from the Law and her Ten Days series and decided I wanted to create a series of posts for myself. So, I worked on some drafts and hopefully, if I can wrangle the laptop from my husband’s backpack, I’ll post the first entry tonight or tomorrow morning.

Speaking of which, as a final note, do most of you have more than one computer in your house? I really want to get my own laptop because we have a desktop but it’s from college and REALLY REALLY slow. Just trying to decide if it’s worth it so that I can read blogs and look at Facebook when I’m at home by myself.

Have a WONDERFUL day! 🙂

What to Do?

My husband has a social activity for his section tonight – so, the question for the evening is, “What should I do?”

I’m getting used to finding weeknight activities for myself. And, honestly, much of the time, I don’t have to “find” an activity. Instead, I have one foisted upon me, as anyone who works in PR and tries to be involved in the community will certainly understand. For example, next week I have a dinner to attend on Monday, a JL meeting on Tuesday and a “just-for-fun” outing with some friends on Wednesday.

But coming up with Friday night plans that don’t include a bottle of wine and catching up on Project Runway (and the newest episode of The Office) are a very different thing. I have to work Saturday this week because we have a community event. So, late late late night plans are not part of the equation.

So, what should I do? Clean? Bake? Go to a movie? Paint pottery? Beg a friend to take pity on me? What do you other law wives and girlfriends do when you have extra, unexpected alone time on your hands?

On the upside, if my husband comes home before going out, I’ll have the computer and I have a very long, photo-intensive post to write so I can wow you with my repair-woman ingenuity. So, get excited for that (little tiny bit of sarcastic inflection here).

American Samoa: Football and Fortitude

You guys should watch this video – it’s really interesting/touching.

The embedded video is from YouTube, but this at CBSNews is better quality.

This clip, from 60 Minutes, is about American Samoa, where my grandmother is from. It’s called “American Samoa: Football Island” because so many football players come from Samoan heritage. There are actually several videos that you should watch, including the Haka War Dance, which all my cousins do, and the video on Troy Polomalu, probably the most famous Samoan player in the League right now.

I’m including the clip of Troy’s video here for Jamie, his biggest fan. 🙂

Honestly, the reason I’m posting this is just as some food for thought. These kids grow up with nothing. They are poor; their home has recently been devastated by a natural disaster; they don’t have a lot of opportunities available to them in life. What do they have? Football. They know that football is a way to a better life for them and their family. They have heart and they put their natural abilities of size and strength to work. A boy growing up in American Samoa is 40 times more likely to make it to the NFL than a boy growing up in the States. Why?

If you watch the video, you’ll see – the kids play without proper equipment, without resources, without all the things that are “necessary” for kids in America to develop into professional athletes – all the Select teams and the sharp uniforms. These kids literally store their equipment in a rusted out old bin. Their helmets are taped together; their jerseys are makeshift and their practice fields are such that American kids wouldn’t deign to scrimmage on – mud and rocks and dirt. But, they have heart, and it shows.

My mom’s mother was born in Pago Pago, Samoa. She had the good fortune to be sent to Catholic school in Hawaii when she was 10. While living on Hawaii in her teens, she met my grandfather (not Samoan), who was serving in the Navy. They moved to America, where my mom and her brother and sisters were born. I’m grown up eating palusami and doing traditional dances my whole life, but I’ve never been there and I’ve never witnessed firsthand the lives that these young people lead.

Samoans have huge hearts — my grandmother can trace a family or personal connection to every Samoan person we have ever met, whether at the Polynesian Revue at Epcot or at a small community church in Central Texas.

When I say that last thing, I’m not just providing a whimsical example. My grandmother was actually allowed to go backstage at the Polynesian Revue because people knew her. When an article about Samoan dance was featured in a newspaper I read for work at my previous job, I emailed the pastor who was quoted in the article. I literally said, “I grew up in East Texas. My grandmother still lives there; she’s from Samoa and I really enjoyed the recent article in XYZ paper.” He wrote me back and said, “Is your grandmother Malia who owns XYZ in [East Texas city]?” It’s crazy.

The connections, the drive, the sense of family – they’re all such important parts of this portion of my heritage. I am so proud of these kids and the way they take nothing for granted in their lives. We can all learn a great deal from their perseverance.

Talofa and thanks for reading! 🙂

A Bundle of Random and a Proposition

This was a blah weekend. I’m going to chalk it up to a little rain, a horrible week in football (for both collegiate and my fantasy team) and just some bad mood hormones.

And, my husband studied at home Sunday. It’s nice to have him at home all day, but I can tell it was a sacrifice for him. He really needs the structure of the library to study, so I think next Sunday will find him back on campus instead of at home. It also made it a bit more stressful. because I was trying to be quiet but still get all my Sunday work done — cleaning up, laundry, dishes, etc. — while making a minimum amount of noise. Not really possible, so I think that just fueled my melancholy, because every clink of a plate felt like a huge deal. That’s way too much stress — to try to be quiet, be supportive and be a super-tidy superwife all at the same time. So, I’ll miss seeing him on Sundays but I think that this new method may be the best. Thoughts?

Also, thank you for all the recipes! I ended up making queso (thanks, NTNW!), a veggie tray (including red bell pepper slices – yum!), mini pigs in a blanket and brownies (note to ohmypuddin – I didn’t make the Symphony bar brownies Saturday, but have made them before to rave reviews – they are amazing!). I’ll keep using y’all’s recipes each week as we keep watching games. 🙂

I’m having a sort of a thought lately. Probably a bad one – what do you think? Since we’ve moved into our house, I find myself doing a lot more chores. After all, I guess it takes more effort to clean a two-story house than an 800 square foot apartment. I’ve been wondering – how dirty do you think my house might get if I were to “take off” from cleaning for an entire week? Obviously, I wouldn’t leave plates of rotting food out, etc. My husband thinks I’m putting too much stress on myself by fussing about extra chores at this house that I didn’t do on a regular basis at the apartment, in addition to the whole painting/decorating thing — and I’d (kind of evilly) also like to see how much housework gets done if I’m not the one doing it.

What do you think? Would not cleaning (or not cleaning as thoroughly) make life less or more stressful? I don’t know that this activity will happen anytime soon, because during football and basketball season, we tend to have company over at least once a week and I don’t want to shame myself with my slovenliness. But, have you ever tried it? Or would you recommend it?

Your Recipes, Please!

Okay, I’ve been a  bad blogger this week. Things haven’t even really been extremely hectic; I just haven’t been good about writing. I have decided that I need a personal planner (thoughts inspired by Emma at Legally Lovely’s post today), because twice this week I’ve forgotten events that I needed to attend and figured it out at the last minute (workout group and JL meeting).

But anyway, the reason I’m writing this short post is this: I need some suggestions. We’re planning on having some friends over to watch college football on Saturday. I’ve already been working on house straightening (who painted a bathroom and put together a shelf last night? Meeee!), but I need food ideas for this get-together.

I’m assuming it will be mostly guys from Ducks’ section that will be over and a couple of our college friend. It’s an afternoon game, so we don’t have to make a big meal, but I want to have plenty of snacks and beverages on hand. And, I’d like to make most of the food tonight if possible because tomorrow I’m going with my friend H to look for her WEDDING DRESS (did I mention that I’m a bridesmaid?! I feel so honored because I’ve only known her for about a year, but we’ve become good friends).

Anyway, so H, her MoH (K from work), her sister, L (from work) and I are going on a dress scouting expedition, as well as celebrating H’s birthday. Then, I’m rushing home for this, the most important football game of the year, the game that could be a statement game about our improved team and the game that ensure our trip to a bowl game this year (yes, I know it’s only the third week of the season, but as I’m trying to impress upon you all, this game means a lot.

So, back to topic: I need ideas for food for the party. I’ve asked my friend Christi to bring over some sweet and sour meatballs that she makes, which are SO good, but beyond that, I’ve got nothing. I want to impress the law school friends, whom I’ll be meeting for the first time, and I want to not be super-stressed about whether things are ready to go. Plus, this will apparently be only the first of many such events as Ducks has agreed that our house can be a hosting place for the [insert alma mater name here] Bar Association social events.

 Recipes, suggestions, drink ideas? I’m all ears.

And, if you happen to be in town, stop by! 🙂