I have a facetiously legal question for you all today.
In a relationship, when you have a disagreement, should the wronged party be entitled to punitive damages?
So, basically, meant to ensure that a person has learned their lesson, corrected their reprehensible conduct and will not let a similar action occur again. I think some of society’s relationship rituals are currently based on the idea of punitive damages. For example, yesterday Ducks sent me some flowers to celebrate our 2 1/2 year anniversary (we always celebrate half-years. And, no, this post is not completely meant to brag about how cute my husband is). However, it never fails, whenever he sends me flowers, someone always says something like, “Oooh, he must be in trouble,” or “Oh, what did he do?” As if the only reason that a husband or significant other would send flowers is because he committed a grievous act of some sort. Personally, I don’t even know that I’d want flowers for that reason. After all, they’re supposed to make you happy, and I think flowers sent because of a fight would just make me remember the fight, not the loving person behind the flower order.
(Oh, here to break up all this copy a little – pic of the flowers – so pretty!)
However, with that being said, I don’t think I am against some form of penance would be in order in the event of a very bad fight, situation or disagreement. I’m not talking about, “Ducks ate the last of the cheddar and sour cream ruffles,” or, “I bought a pair of shoes that were not in the budget.” I’m thinking about situations that are more serious (aka in legalese – reprehensible behavior), like, “He stayed out all night and never called to let me know he was still alive,” or, “I have a secret stash of naughty magazines and he discovered it,” or “One of us got our fifth speeding ticket in a year, even though we’re on a budget and can’t afford this kind of thing.”
So, what do you think? Should the injured party/the person not-at-fault in the relationship be allowed to require some type of grand gesture to signify true repentance and a commitment to the relationship? I feel like I already act this way sometimes, because if we fight, I’ll try to be extra angelic, make his favorite meals, etc.
But, officially, as you may can tell, I’m kind of on the fence about this, and am curious to hear your thoughts.
** DISCLAIMER on my husband’s behalf: He would like me to assure you all that we are not actually fighting or disagreeing and that this is not a passive-aggressive blog post to talk about my frustration with him.