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Ten Days: The Final Post

It’s the very last day in the Ten Days series. It’s going to be harder to blog after this because I had all the posts for ten days written out and then just made slight revisions to them as needed before posting. So, I have to get out of lazy blogger mode!

Day Ten: One confession

I had already scripted out my confession about how I really want to quit my job and become a writer, but I decided against posting that. For one thing, it’s just not that interesting. I think everyone who blogs probably harbors a secret ambition to become a best-selling author or at least a successful freelancer. For another thing, I don’t actually want it enough to really quit my job and give up financial security and good health insurance. So, I decided to come up with a new confession that’s more interesting and fun.

My confession is….

I think my husband has extremely sexy arm hair.

That sounds super weird/creepy probably, and I know he’s going to be irritated with me that I would post something about him using the “s-word,” but what’s a confession if it’s not at least a little polarizing, right?

Maybe it’s not just the arm hair, but also his super-attractive, well-defined forearms. That’s probably a big part of it. But, really, he does have great arm hair, people. Next time any of you local friends see him, I’ll probably catch you checking out his arms. That’s totally okay with me. I mean, it’s a rare man whose extraneous hair forms part of the top ten list of his extremely attractive qualities (to his wife at least). And at least it’s not something super-weird like a nose-hair or unibrow fetish. That would just be creepy.

Okay, so, I’ve confessed, and with that I’m wrapping up the Ten Days series. I hope you’ve enjoyed learning random tidbits of information about me – thanks for all your great comments – I really enjoy getting to know all of you. And, while I’m thinking about it, CONGRATULATIONS to my friend, New Teacher, New Wife, on her NEW JOB! So happy for you! 🙂

Ten Days: Day Nine

Day Nine: Two words that describe your life right now.

Content. I’m really happy and pleased with my life right now. We have the little stresses and worries of school and money and relationship stuff. We have the little irritations of bills and annoying acquaintances and chores. But overall, we have a wonderful life, wonderful friends and a lot of things to be thankful for.

Waiting. Right now, I feel like having a husband in law school means that we’re waiting on a lot of things. We’re waiting on a vacation we want to take to Greece. We’re waiting for the bar exam. We’re waiting for a job in the legal field. We’re waiting to figure out which city we’ll be living in once Ducks finishes school. We’re waiting to start a family. We’re just waiting for many things to happen. Happily and contently waiting, but waiting still.

When I was re-reading this post (the downfall of drafting posts over the weekend), I realized that my life is pretty boring. Both my words have to do with just living with some peace, but not doing a whole lot to forge ahead in the world. But, they’re true. I’m happy with my life right now, but I don’t feel like I’m moving toward any kind of goals, personally or professionally.

What do you do in these kinds of situations? I can’t take on school right now because we can’t afford two students in the family. I’m already doing some volunteer work in the community. What can I do to create a little extra spark in my life? I don’t have any type of big projects or any prospect of a promotion at work for quite some time (I’ve already talked with my boss about it). While I love my job, knowing that I won’t be able to advance until some major changes happen within the organization means that no matter how hard I work, I’m just working for the sake of doing a good job and earning a paycheck, not for career development. 

So, what can I/should I do to bring a little more challenge and excitement into my life?

Ten Days: Day Seven


This day in the Ten Days series is super-easy, which is good because — once again, I will complain — it’s very hard to access the computer when we only have one and Ducks uses it for school. I feel like a whiny brat when I say that because, obviously, even having one computer is more than many people have. And, let’s be honest, I just want to use it for talking with you all and checking Facebook and Twitter (and watching the occassional back episode of Greek). But still…

Okay, as I previously mentioned, today’s list is an easy one: four turn-offs.

Anything super smelly. This goes for good or bad smells. I can’t even wear perfume because strong smells give me a headache. I can sometimes even get nauseous just from wearing lotion. On this subject of smelly smells, I would like to disclose the fact that my strange husband “kind of likes the smell of skunk.” Ha – weirdo. He says it’s because it reminds him of being on his grandparents’ ranch growing up.

Lizard things. Oh, gag. No Geico for me EVER. And absolutely no Sobe Life Water. Just seeing something with a lizard on it is enough to turn my stomach. I had a co-worker once who collected decorative lizards – oh, how I hated going into her office. I should also add that tonight when we were coming home from Target, a gecko accomplished its life goal of GETTING INTO THE HOUSE. So now it’s not enough that I have to sprint in and out of MY OWN HOUSE if it’s remotely dark outside; they’ve now decided to run a kamikaze operative on the premises. You animal lovers out there will be happy to hear that it was not killed. Ducks (my hero) chased it out of the house with a weapon, which I later discovered was one of my black dress shoes. I guess you can’t have everything in life, but a good man who’ll protect you from noxious wilderness creatures is a prize.

Delusions of grandeur. I’ve already mentioned “Lou,” the girl I know who is convinced she’ll be famous. Her newest spiel is to criticize the music she hears on the radio and talk loudly about how it’s nothing compared to her original songs. Geez. Every day it’s something new about how she’s planning to model her future philanthropy efforts after this celebrity or how she’s absolutely sure she’ll be performing at the state’s biggest music festival next year, or how she’s set a goal of making $10 million within a year by selling the CD she’s produced. I mean, go for your dreams and all that, but let’s keep it in this stratosphere of real, please.

Excessive t-shirt fan-ness. I get it. Some people don’t attend a big college with a big sports program, or maybe they have family ties to another school, or grew up in a certain city, etc. I personally am a tiny bit of a TCU t-shirt fan. Not because they’re currently fourth in the nation (but, yeah!!!), but because my in-laws are alumni and live across the street from the university. The t-shirt fans I have a problem with are the ones who blatantly support a school to the point of rudeness, even though they didn’t attend that university. For example, when we went to a bar to watch the Red River Rivalry, a fan of one of the teams came over and screamed, “F*** you!” in Ducks’ face because we weren’t acting all super-crazy and cheering for his team. We weren’t cheering for either team. And let’s not say that this guy’s behavior maybe just got out of hand while he was cheering on his alma mater. Nope, I seriously doubt that he even finished high school, let alone attended college. It’s that kind of attitude that I hate. Cheer for whoever you want (especially if it’s my school) but treat other people with respect.

What about you guys? Any big turn-offs? While you’re blog-reading, go check out Domestic Novice, Esq. She’s doing Ten Days also! 🙂

Ten Days: Day Six

O -M-G, I need my own computer. I’m behind on blogging because I don’t get to see my husband, and more importantly, his laptop, very often.

But anyway, here’s the next in the series of Ten Days posts. And then…. I’m off to a glorious weekend in the beautiful city of Dallas. Hurray!

And, this one is too easy –  Five people who mean a lot to you. I immediately know my five people, and, those of you who read my blog regularly probably do too. I’m going to put my real Fave Five at the bottom of this post, and do a quick list of five other people that I love as well.

1) Jane Austen. I never got a chance to meet you, since you died a couple hundred years ago, but I love you. Thanks for forging the way for women writers and for being so witty.

2) My “work girlfriend,” L: I love my whole group of work friends – there are three in particular who are special to me, but I love L for being close to my age, quick to become my friend and having such a generous heart. When I first came to work here, she immediately adopted me as her lunch buddy and friend. Only several months later did she tell me, “When you came here, I was really afraid you would be a snotty b**** and not be my friend.” So, I love her even more for reaching out to me, past her shyness and worries.

3) My university’s head basketball coach. This man has influenced the course of my life a great deal during the past seven years since he took a crumbling, miserable, scandal-racked program from the dust and began mending it. He’s another person from my list that I’ve never actually met , but I don’t think you have to actually meet him to be refreshed by his enthusiasm or excited by his passion for God, life and basketball.

4) My friend T. She’s a fairly new friend, but I find her to be extremely inspirational. She was born with a disability, but that didn’t keep her from graduating from the most prestigious public university in the state in THREE years, or from snagging a great job or being a fantastic person. It’s very inspiring just to be around her.

5) My former co-worker V: She was like a second mom to me when I worked at my previous company. She worried about me, brought me little surprises when I was having bad, stressful or just moody days and always believed in me. When I left that company for my current job, she told me she expected me to be a VP in 2 to 3 years at the new company, and she still firmly believes that I will be. Add to all that the fact that she just finished treatment for her second bout with breast cancer, and I think you’ll see why she means a lot to me and why she’s another great inspiration.

That’s the tough five. Now here’s the easy five – the people I love the most in the world.

My Ducks – For eight years, this man has been my best friend. We’ve pretty much grown up together, since we’ve known each other since he was 19 and I was 18. In fact, when I talked to my baby sister recently, she said she couldn’t remember a time when she didn’t know him. She’s the one who named him Ducks because, in her 4-year-old reasoning, “He’s just cute.” When I consider the fact that she’s one year away from being a teenager, it’s amazing to think that he and I have been together for so long.

My sisters – I always feel a little sad for people who don’t have sisters, because despite our differences in age, outlook and personality, I have built-in best friends, and will for the rest of my life. I don’t laugh with anyone like I do with them, and often for no reason but the happiness of being together. When I look back at photos, the ones I look the best in (in my opinion) are the ones with my three sisters because I’m so happy just to be with them. Wonderful-ness.

My daddy – I’m the oldest daughter of a man who has four girls and always longed for a son. This is the man who coached me in sports, who pushed me to excel and who turned me from a shy girl with puffy bangs and big glasses to an all-state athlete and a confident young woman. He’s the man who, in addition to our touching father-daughter dance, suggested that we do a surprise choreographed dance to “U Can’t Touch This,” because that was clearly the song of our life and the one we’d been dancing to for 23 years. So lucky to have such a fantastic father and friend in my life.

So there you have it. Happy weekend, peeps! 🙂

Ten Days: Day Five

Day Five: Six things you wish you could change or you wish you’d never done.

Okay, y’all, I got a little sad writing this one. And none of my regrets are really big things. But still….

1) I wish I had taken better advantage of my time in college, that I would have wrung every single memory and opportunity from those 3 ½ years. I loved college, but I wish I’d have lived a little more. It would have helped if I had realized the advantages of alcohol a little earlier in life, or if my dad hadn’t rushed me into taking extra classes to graduate early or if I’d been like my sister and not worked as hard in school and demanded things that I wanted so that my parents would have given me a little more money. But, I met a marvelous man and made some lifelong friends, so there’s not too much to complain about there.

2) I wish I had known that you don’t have to jump right into a career. We have our whole lives to work and don’t have to be so eager to leap right into it. I wish I’d saved some money and had some adventures, or even gone to grad school, instead of being so eager to get started in the working world. It’s not that great. 😉

3) I wish I had taken time to study abroad. Even if I’d have to take out a loan or something like that, it would have been an unforgettable experience. My best friend spent a semester in the Netherlands, and we would have had so much fun if we’d been there together. I’m going to make sure that my children have the option to do this one day. If any of you have great study abroad stories, I want to hear them and live vicariously through you.

4) I wish one of my roommates hadn’t stolen the necklace my parents gave me for high school graduation. It was beautiful and it meant a lot to me. I still start tearing up when I think about it. It couldn’t have meant anything to her; she probably sold it for far less than it was worth. But it was really special to me and I still think about it often and wish I could turn back time to get it back.

5) I wish I hadn’t gone alone to look for my wedding dress. At the time, I lived near no one. My parents and sisters were far away. I had just moved to a new city and didn’t have any friends there yet. I had a boss from hades, no available vacation time, and the boss wouldn’t let me work for comp time, so I went on weekdays to try on dresses at lunch and right after work. When I went with my friend H to look at dresses recently for her upcoming wedding, I got teary-eyed, not just because she was so pretty but because I was so sad that I missed the entire experience with people I loved.

6) I wish I hadn’t realized about five minutes ago that I’ve missed three days of birth control pills in a row. Eeeeeek!

Ten Days: Day Four

Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.

My apologies for skipping the weekend. I just figure that you guys have a lot more interesting things to do on beautiful fall Saturdays and Sundays than sit at home and read this little blog. With no further delays, here’s day four.

1)      How will I advance my career? I love my job, but I worry a lot about whether there’s room for growth or if I’ll have to find something new. I’m the only PR person, so I’m currently doing it all. Not a lot of room to advance. So, that’s always in the back of my mind.

2)      When will I write a novel? Will I have time? How will I finish the one I’m working on now? Will anyone like it?

3)      Will I be a good mother? I’ve already talked a little about this. I want to have a great relationship with my kids and to bring them to adulthood with minimal need of therapy. So, I think about that.

4)      What will I cook for dinner? I’ve been trying, since I’ve been married, to make good meals at night. It’s not always easy because I don’t have a lot of cooking experience or a lot of time to research recipes (because I’m blogging, of course). But I still want to make good food and impress my husband. 😉  By the way, I just made GlamLifeHouseWife’s tamale pie last night. SO good.

5)      Will we be poor? How much money do we have? I am the world’s biggest money worrier. I’m not necessarily a great budgeter. I just try not to eat out, to find good deals at the grocery store and not to be tempted to buy very many cute things. But I’m very afraid of being poor, so I stress about it.

6)      Will my sister EVER start dating Lee? They are the world’s cutest couple, but she (Jo) says she’ll never go out with him because “he’s a ginger.” Which is a ridiculous reason, since he’s a tall, handsome collegiate letterman with a great personality and good values. And I actually really like redheads. But, what can you do?

7)  How often do other girls hit on my husband? I see them do it right in front of me, so I assume it must be very common. In fact, at the first law school reception, Ducks was talking to some guys and mentioned “my wife.” I wasn’t standing with him but I was near enough to hear the conversation. Immediately, there was a flurry of whispers from the law school girls gathered around. “What?” “He’s married?” “Did he just say he was married?” Good thing he’s so sweet and so in love with me or I’d have to put a secret surveillance camera in his backpack!

Ten Days: Day Three

Day Three: Eight things you couldn’t live without.

1) College basketball. Yeah, I may have mentioned this a few times before. But, March Madness is my very favorite thing in my entire calendar year. And I love my college team. A lot. I may have mentioned that also.

2) My iPhone. I never would have thought I was the kind of girl who would LOVE an iPhone. I’m not much of a gadget girl, even though I do love social media. But I have my iPhone on hand pretty much any time of the day or night.

3) Contact lenses. When I had the horrific eye infection this past year, I realized exactly how much I love wearing contacts. Sometimes when I can’t wear my contacts, I wonder how I would have survived if I lived on the prairie or something. I’d literally have to be led around by the hand; I’d be completely blind. So, yes, I salute you, Mr. (or Ms.) Contact Lens Inventor.

4) Books on tape. I have to echo Sara’s post on this one. I love books on tape. I play them from my iPhone while I’m working on my house (painting walls and such). I play them on my drive to work. Yes, I’m a fan.

5) Books, period. I would estimate that I’ve read 8,000 to 10,000 books in my life. I’m not kidding when I say that. There are books like Anne of Green Gables and Jane Austen’s Emma that I’ve read at least 20 times each, so that’s where the variance comes in. In first grade alone, I read 326 books (nerd alert: I have a trophy for it), so I think my calculation is pretty reasonable

6) Ice cream. I could eat ice cream every day. Probably more than once a day. We have a running joke in our house that Ducks eats all the ice cream because he probably eats about one spoonful from each carton we buy. Which is why we don’t buy it very often. BTW, favorite flavor: cookies and cream. Just yum.

7) My sisters. No explanation needed. They’re the funniest, brightest, most beautiful girls in the world. I love them.

8 ) My husband. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. I have the best husband in the world. He’s a man who didn’t even think he was good-looking until I told him over and over, even though the first thing most girls say, in cooing voices, after they meet him is, “Oh, your husband is SO handsome! You’re so lucky.”

I’m glad I wrote this post early, because already today I’ve been terrorized by a dream lizard, Chelsea Handler and a real-life beetle. I never would have made it through a post otherwise. Eesh.

(Disclaimer: It’s not Chelsea’s fault, really. She can’t help it that she’s hilarious and that my sister idolizes her. I just can’t believe I’m not going to be able to get a book signed for Jo’s birthday. After all, she and Chelsea have a lot in common. I’m sure Chelsea has also gotten wasted, picked up from the river by the police and taken to the hospital. Oh, and they also both like vodka.)